Oprah said this .......
Oprah has to say this about men.....
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with her, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. You should not be the one doing all the ending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
What do u think about it?? I would really like to know ... I felt like contradiciting at some places.... .
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with her, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. You should not be the one doing all the ending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.
What do u think about it?? I would really like to know ... I felt like contradiciting at some places.... .
posted by meet_me at
7/11/2006 06:42:00 PM
6 Comments:
ever person has different opinions ....maybe it worked for her....it wouldnt work for me....
oprah is right in many ways...never let a man mistreat u ......never do...stand give him one back if he does,.....
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Aparna Mudi, at 7/12/2006 9:57 AM
its not just a man. i guess what she said applies to any individual ~ man or woman.
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Movie Mazaa, at 7/12/2006 11:44 AM
i agree with Velu... it applies to all, one shouldnt let anyone steam roll you and vice versa...!
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Neer, at 7/16/2006 1:29 AM
hmmmmm . in this age i guess that as we stress so much on equality then the above said has to apply for both men as well a women coz just as the men r not knights in shinning armour the women are no damsels in distress either . wat happened in the past how ppl were treated cannot and mustnot form the basis for todays relationships . agree with oprah that dont look for a person to "COMPLETE " u but some one to add to u .
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Anonymous, at 7/16/2006 3:29 AM
The same said for women too. I agree with the statement that we shouldn't let anybody walk all over us. But at the same time relationships only work because of constant adjustment from both parties. It is a very fine balancing act to determine when to forgive a person for his/her behavior and when to get rid of the person. I think each has to make their own judgement on that.
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Twisted DNA, at 7/18/2006 2:05 PM
I agree with her. :-)
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Willie Baronet, at 7/19/2006 8:11 AM
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